So, you’ve been subtly (or not-so-subtly) hinting to your partner that you might be expecting a proposal soon. You’ve been deep-diving into Pinterest boards, crafting the perfect dream wedding that totally aligns with your aesthetic and absolutely does not exceed your budget by, like, $50,000. Meanwhile, Aunt Karen keeps dropping not-so-casual hints at family dinners, like, “So, when are we finally getting some wedding cake?” (Ma’am, let’s start with a proposal first, okay?).
The pressure is real. The anticipation is exhilarating. And also? Expensive. Because before you even say “Yes!” to the proposal, your bank account is already whispering “Girl, we need to talk.”
But don’t worry, I got you! Before you get swept away in the whirlwind of engagement photo shoots, “surprise” proposal parties (that you low-key planned yourself), and the ultimate stress of crafting the perfect Instagram caption (“OMG! I said yes! ” is too basic, right?”), let’s talk strategy. Here are eight practical and slightly sarcastic ways to save money before the big moment.
1. Master the Art of Dodging Proposal-Related Shopping Sprees
The second you suspect a proposal is coming, you might feel an overwhelming urge to stock up on new outfits, get an Instagram-worthy manicure, and, oh, I don’t know, buy a whole new wardrobe just in case someone captures the moment from a bad angle. Resist!
Instead, rotate through the 3 cutest outfits you already own and get a $10 press-on nail set. Trust me, no one is zooming in on your cuticles in the engagement photos.
2. Create a “Proposal Fund” Before You Start Daydreaming About a Ring Upgrade
Your partner gets down on one knee. You see the ring. Your first thought? OMG, I love it! Your second thought? Is this upgradeable?
Instead of prematurely plotting a future ring enhancement, start a “proposal fund” for unexpected costs, like getting the ring resized, an engagement party, or even a little celebratory getaway. Future You will be grateful.
3. Politely Shut Down Wedding Industry Scammers (aka Everyone)
The wedding industry is designed to make you believe that if you don’t have a handmade, gold-foiled, scented engagement announcement, your love isn’t real.
Ignore the noise. Do you really need a professional calligrapher to write “We’re engaged!” on 100 pieces of overpriced cardstock? No, girl. An Instagram Story with a cute Canva template is free.
4. Pre-Proposal Glow-Up: DIY Beauty Over Expensive Treatments
Listen, I love a good facial as much as the next girl, but a full-blown “glow-up” beauty regimen pre-proposal?
Skip the overpriced treatments and opt for budget-friendly self-care. A DIY face mask, drugstore teeth whitening strips, and an at-home mani-pedi work wonders. Plus, you can pocket that extra cash for actual wedding expenses.
5. Engagement Photos? Ask That One Friend With a Fancy Camera
Once the ring is on, there’s this unspoken rule that you must instantly book a full-scale engagement photoshoot in a golden field at sunset.
But before you shell out hundreds of dollars, ask your artsy friend with the DSLR camera (or a newer iPhone) to snap some cute shots.
Pro tip: Golden hour makes everything look professional.
6. Resist the “Engagement Party” Money Pit
An engagement party sounds cute in theory, but guess who usually ends up footing the bill? You.
Instead, turn a casual hangout into an informal celebration. Call it a “proposal afterparty” at a friend’s house, bring a bottle of bubbly, and call it a day. Boom. Money saved.
7. Avoid the “Bride-to-Be” Merch Trap
The second you say “Yes,” the world expects you to buy matching Bride-themed PJs, a pearl-studded “Future Mrs.” tumbler, and a $50 “Engaged AF” sweatshirt because, apparently, your normal wardrobe is now invalid.
Newsflash: You don’t need any of that.
Instead, channel that energy into budgeting for the actual wedding (or, you know, a much-needed spa day to recover from all the unsolicited advice).
8. Mentally Prepare for the In-Law Budget Debate
Once you’re engaged, the real financial fun begins: Talking Money With Family.
Your mom wants a cathedral wedding. His mom thinks a backyard ceremony is fine. You just want to avoid going into debt over centerpieces.
Start setting realistic financial expectations early on. A simple “We’re prioritizing a budget-friendly wedding” can work wonders in managing expectations (and keeping your savings intact).
The Final Word: Engagements Are Fun, but Your Savings Account Shouldn’t Suffer
Saying “Yes” is a magical moment, but let’s be real: it’s also the beginning of a very expensive adventure. So before you get swept up in the whirlwind of Pinterest boards and ring selfies, take a moment to budget, strategize, and protect your wallet.
Now, I want to hear from you! What’s the funniest or weirdest money-saving tip you’ve used before getting engaged? Drop it in the comments below!